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What Is Codependency?

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve been keenly aware of the fact that the term codependency has been around for almost four decades. Although it originally applied to spouses of alcoholics, first called co-alcoholics, it then became abundantly clear that family and friends also constituted a network of codependents whose lives centered around the alcoholic, or […]

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Checklist for Hidden Anger

As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve often met with clients of mine who seem determined to put on a happy facade and deny their own anger.  Unfortunately, when they bury or hide their own anger from themselves, it can come out sideways or morph into anxiety and depression.  Instead of burying or denying […]

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PSYCHODRAMA

As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Sports Psychology Consultant, I often use Psychodrama with individual clients as well as in the groups that I facilitate.  Psychodrama is an action method, often used as a psychotherapy, in which clients use spontaneous dramatization, role playing and dramatic self-presentation to investigate and gain insight into their lives.  Developed by Jacob L. Moreno, M.D. (1889–1974) […]

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WHAT IS YOUR MISSION?

As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Sports Psychology Consultant, I’ve been privileged to work with men, women, couples, groups, and athletes. While some of my clients come to me with specific goals that they’d like to achieve in our work together, others come to me feeling rudderless and lost, and they have no goals […]

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BEWARE THE EIGHT WORLDLY WINDS

As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Sports Psychology Consultant, I’ve learned from life experiences as well as from working with my clients that  life is inherently impermanent; nothing lasts forever.  Seasons come and go, youth gives way to old age, beauty gives way to wrinkles,  life gives way to death, and because everything eventually […]

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TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE

As a Marriage and a Family Therapist, I often encourage the individuals, couples, families, and groups that I work with to practice the art of forgiveness.  My intention is to make this practice a daily one for them. Oftentimes, my clients balk at the notion of forgiving themselves or anyone else for that matter.  They fear […]

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MAKE USE OF TRANSITION RITUALS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, SPORTS ENDEAVORS, AND IN LIFE!!

As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I work with individuals, couples, families, and high school, collegiate, and professional athletes.  I’ve often noticed in my practice that my clients don’t incorporate Transition Rituals into their daily lives;  In turn, their relationships and sports performances suffer.  I don’t begrudge my clients for not doing so, however. […]

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BECOME THE WATCHER AND REALIZE YOUR FULL POTENTIAL

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I used to hear spiritually inclined people say that we are “spiritual beings having human experiences” with skepticism and a touch of cynicism too.  I was more secular then, and I was convinced that I was defined by my mind, my body, and my emotions.  Heck, it was the […]

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THE DANCE OF FEAR AND SHAME IN RELATIONSHIPS

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I often see couples whose relationships are very strained and are on the brink of being irreparably broken.  There are often countless reasons why couples fall out of love and instead build armor around their hearts and fortresses around their souls.  Among the many reasons for their relationships deterioration, […]

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MAN UP, MEN, AND TREAT YOUR DEPRESSION!! :)

In America alone, over 50 million Americans suffer each year from depression.  And depression is a crippling illness.  As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I see men alone, in groups, and in couple’s counseling a lot who are clearly suffering from this affliction.  Unfortunately, men are particularly vulnerable to feelings of shame.  To them, seeking […]

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