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It’s trite and redundant to say because it’s been said a million times before:  “Life is short, so make the most of it while you’re still here.”  In my teens, 20’s, and 30’s, I heard variations of that same message echoed by strangers, friends, and family members alike.  I suppose that I understood the whole “life is short” thing intellectually, but I hadn’t really known anyone who was close to me that had died.  Like many young adults, I had felt somewhat invincible through the years.  I hadn’t thought much about death or my mortality, and it’s always felt to me that the grim reaper was doing his thing somewhere else.

I’m 41 years old now.  And lately, I’ve had several close friends lose their Mother or Father.  In fact, I’ve attended more funerals in the last 6 months than I have in my entire life.  Right now a close friend of mine has only 3 months to live, and she’s only 62 years old!!  A 40 year old client of mine recently came into my office to tell me that she has stage 4 inoperable cancer, and she has between 2 to 4 months to live as well.  Finally, a family member of mine just suffered his second heart attack in 6 weeks, and he’s being tended to in a hospital right now unable to breathe on his own.

I’m not writing this blog to depress you.  Please know and trust this.  However, I feel compelled to join the chorus of people who have come before me, and I want to remind you that life is short.  Our time here is ephemeral.  In light of this, do your best each day to not “sweat the small stuff.”  Practice gratitude.  Be of service to others.  Open your hearts and share your love with others.  Practice kindness.  Cultivate deep and meaningful connections with others.  Embrace and cherish this moment Now.  All the while, please bear in mind that a glimpse of  tomorrow’s sunset isn’t guaranteed for any of us.

I realize my recommendations to you may sound cliche.  But the truth is, we’re only on this Earth for a short while.

Carpe Diem!!

Seize the Day!!

John Boesky, LMFT