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Hello!!  My name is John Boesky, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Master NLP Practitioner, Certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Dharma Life Coach, and Sports Performance Consultant. I am deeply passionate about helping individuals, couples, families, groups, and athletes achieve their goals and maximize their full potential. I LOVE my profession, and I find it incredibly rewarding to be of service to those who are truly committed to growing!

Specialties: Individual Therapy Counseling Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling Sports Performance Consulting Group Facilitation


Qualifications: Years in Practice: 15+ years License No. and State: LMFT #39666 California

Happily Married!!

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our light shine, we give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

~ Marianne Williamson

Treatment Approach

I will enthusiastically serve as your partner and co-collaborator in our work together, and I will tailor-make my therapeutic approach to support your courageous endeavor to attain your specific goals and achieve your desired outcomes.

In our work together, I will give you my full attention, genuine empathy, and deep compassion as we access your internal treasure trove of resources and widsom to embolden you to live your best life.  In addition, I will share with you illuminating teaching pieces, and I will provide you constructive feedback to help you successfully achieve your individual and/or relationship goals.  

I will also engage you in experiential exercises that will be designed to give you even greater self and other-awareness to expand your consciousness so that you see yourself, your relationships, and the world anew.  Finally, I will happily share with you the wisdom that I've acquired over many years from seminars, workshops, mentors, books, and personal life experiences so you will leave our sessions with tangible takeaways that will enrich the the quality of your life.

I believe that successful therapy and life coaching is founded on a safe, strong, and trusting therapeutic alliance. Given this, you can rest assured that I will happily go into the trenches with you; I will be by your side and I will remain in your corner.  I will also compassionately challenge you at times because I believe that personal transformation often takes place when we stretch beyond our comfort zones. No passive therapy here!

In our therapy together, I will use traditional and more experiential tools and techniques.

Some Traditional therapeutic techniques that I use include:

  • Cognitive-Behavioral
  • Gestalt
  • Psychodrama
  • Jungian
  • Family Systems
  • Psycho-Educational
  • Psycho-Dynamic
  • The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
  • Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
  • Hypnotherapy (Not to worry - this isn't scary!)
  • Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
  • Voice Dialogue Technique
  • Mindfulness-based Therapy
  • Sports Performance Consulting

If you're currently feeling challenged in your relationships, or if you feel as though you're not living up to your full potential as a man, woman, or athlete, please know and trust that I have the expertise and resources to help you. Please call me, e-mail me, or fill out the contact form below so that we can set up an appointment to meet in person soon!!

Contact Me



5100 Marlborough Drive, San Diego, California 92116

Office Telephone: (619) 280-8099
Business Hours: (Monday & Wednesday) 12:00 am - 8:00 pm,  (Tuesday & Thursday) 12 pm-5:00 pm, (Friday) 9:00 am - 1:00 pm

I will respond to you within 24 hours (M-F) after receiving your contact information (please fill out the form on the left).  You're also welcome to call me at 619.280.8099 or e-mail me at to arrange a brief, free phone consultation with me or to schedule an appointment to meet with me in person.  If I’m unavailable or in session, kindly leave me a message and I will call you or write you back as soon as possible. Thank you very much for your time and consideration!!

Fee (per one hour session): $150.00
Sliding Scale: In a select number of cases, yes
Accepted Payment Methods: American Express, Cash, Check, Mastercard, Visa
Accepted Insurance Plans: I send invoices to PPO insurance plans. Please note that most PPO plans will offer coverage or benefits even if I am outside of their network. As a courtesy to you, I am always happy to have my secretary, Kathy Wheatley, contact your insurance company to determine your coverage.