Welcome.
If you’ve found your way here, you may be navigating something meaningful—whether it’s a personal challenge, a relationship struggle, or a desire for deeper growth and clarity. You don’t have to do it alone.
I offer a warm, thoughtful, and highly personalized therapeutic experience for individuals, couples, families, twins, and high-performing athletes. My work is grounded in evidence-based approaches, including Internal Family Systems (IFS), mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), psychodynamic and insight-oriented therapy, hypnotherapy, and solution-focused strategies—integrated with care to meet your unique needs and goals.
Since becoming a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in April 2004, I’ve had the privilege of supporting clients through healing, transformation, and meaningful change. Whether you are seeking relief from distress, greater self-understanding, or the ability to perform and live at your highest potential, my intention is to meet you with presence, depth, and precision.
In our work together, I strive to offer:
My approach is both relational and results-oriented—honoring your inner world while helping you move toward tangible, meaningful outcomes.
Beyond my professional training, I bring the lived experience of marriage, fatherhood, and a lifelong curiosity about the human psyche. I’ve been married for 15 years and am the father of a deeply loved daughter who means the world to me. I value time spent playing tennis and pickleball, traveling, being near the ocean, hiking, and continuing to learn through psychology, personal development, and contemplative practices.
I believe that growth happens in spaces where you feel safe, seen, and understood—and also gently challenged to expand.
If you’re looking for a compassionate and skilled guide—someone who can hold a steady light while helping you navigate complexity and move toward the life you want—I invite you to reach out.
I offer sessions in person, as well as via FaceTime or secure, HIPAA-compliant Zoom.
EXCELLENTTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I have had the privilege of working with John for the past 10 years, and I cannot express enough how transformative and impactful the experience has been for me. From the moment I walked into his office, I felt a sense of warmth and professionalism that set the tone for our sessions. John possesses a rare combination of empathy, insight, and expertise that truly sets him apart from the rest. He creates a safe and non-judgmental space, allowing me to open up and explore my thoughts and feelings in a way I never thought possible. His ability to actively listen and provide thoughtful responses fosters a sense of trust that is essential in any therapeutic relationship. What impresses me the most with my ongoing work with John is his personalized approach. He tailors his therapeutic techniques to suit my individual needs, ensuring that each session is focused on addressing my concerns and working towards my specific goals. This level of customization makes me feel seen and understood, enhancing the overall effectiveness of our time together. Beyond his professional skills, John has an innate ability to guide self-discovery. Through thought-provoking questions and gentle challenges, he constantly helps me gain new perspectives on issues that have essentially been holding me back. I continue to leave each session with a sense of empowerment and a toolkit of practical strategies to apply in my daily life. John goes above and beyond to stay up-to-date with the latest therapeutic approaches and research, demonstrating a commitment to continuous improvement and providing the best care possible. His genuine passion for helping others achieve mental and emotional well-being is evident in every interaction. In conclusion, I wholeheartedly recommend John to anyone seeking a compassionate, skilled, and results-oriented therapist. My time with him has been nothing short of life-changing, and I am grateful to have this ongoing opportunity to work with such an outstanding professional. Thank you, John for making a positive and lasting impact on my life!Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. John is the best- very empathic, encouraging and highly recommended!Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. When I first saw John I was coming from a place of curiousity. I wanted to know more about myself and how to overcome my messed up childhood. Little did I know that my sessions with John would help me become the best version of myself. I had tried other therapists in the past. Some good some not so good but John is on an entirely different level. From the very beginning he treated with kindness and attentavinesss as you would a close friend. His approach is non-judgement and extremly insightful. After every session I would leave feeling a sense of peace and centeredness. After working with John for over 3 years now I can say with full confidence that he has helped me develop into the person I am today. I reccomend John not only to people going through a difficult time in life but anybody who is interested in bettering themselves.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. A woman is walking in a meadow and finds herself in a minefield. Can't get out. She tries desperately for days, yelling for help, for any passers-by along the road to stop and lend assistance. Finally, a doctor stops and cranes his neck to catch her voice. The woman says, "Doc! Doc! Look, I'm in a minefield and I have no idea how to get out!" The doctor writes a prescription, says, "Here you go, this will help," throws it into the wind and keeps walking. Later, a priest walks by and hears her tenuous cries for assistance. Writing a prayer on a slip of paper, he tosses it at her and says, "Here's a prayer for you, my child, to find a way out of your predicament," and keeps walking. Hours later, just as the woman is losing her voice, her pride, and the last vestiges of self-worth, a guy walks by and says, "Excuse me, but are you ok?" The woman looks up, says, "Hey, I've found myself in this minefield and I have no idea how I got here or how to get out." So the guy jumps off the road and walks right over to her, gingerly picking his way through the bushes, mud, and danger signs, and offers his hand. She goes, "what the hell are you doing? Are you insane? Now we're both in here!" The guy says, "yeah, but I've been here before and I know the way out." That guy is John. I've written and rewritten this paragraph about six times now and I can't quite capture what it means to work with John, so I'll say this: For the last few years, John has offered his assistance, support, guidance, and honesty to help me be the best version of myself that I've ever been. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable. It takes an immense amount of strength to examine our behaviors and make adjustments. It requires commitment and dedication to our mental and emotional health to take stock of our needs, insist upon them - healthily, mind you - and take small steps toward larger growth. But I've done it. John didn't do that for me. I did. But John walked over, straight into my minefield, looked me in the eye, handed me the map and said, "Let's find the way out." Best cartographer ever. How do I know? Because I'm on the road now, on the lookout for others in minefields.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I highly recommend seeing John if you are stuck, in distress, or grieving a loss. As an EMDR practitioner, I look for authenticity and integrity in my own treatment. John helped me more forward after a life-altering loss. His insights and perspective were obviously informed by years of practice, and he was genuine and compassionate in his approach. After seeing John for only a few sessions, I felt lighter, less sad, and ready for new beginnings. Thank you, John!Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Working with John changed my life. If you grew up thinking therapy was for "weak" people, you and I probably heard similar things. When I first started meeting with a therapist, I was embarrassed. I didn't tell anyone because I thought my friends would think less of me. I thought strong people didn't need therapy. I soon learned that the opposite is true. Working with a therapist can sometimes bring up things that you never realized about yourself. Being willing to learn about yourself takes courage, especially when what you're learning is that you are hurting another person, or people. It takes strength to expose yourself and your flaws to another person, and create a plan for how to change the things you hate about yourself. Many people think, "I don't need to be fixed," and that's probably true! A therapist is not a fixer. A good therapist will sometimes be a coach, sometimes a teammate, but either way, will always be in your corner; and that is exactly what John has been for me. We hire personal trainers, business coaches, consultants, etc. We see doctors, dentists, chiropractors, and all manner of specialists, but most of us will avoid therapy at all costs. If you wish you had someone to talk to, someone who won't judge you or shame you, I unreservedly recommend meeting with John. If you are anything like me, it will change your life. But first, get rid of the belief that therapy is only for the weak! Or, just call your therapist your life coach :) John, I sincerely appreciate you always making me feel important and heard. I appreciate your guidance, support, encouragement, and care. I remember daily many of the things I've learned from you. Listening well and with empathy being at the top of the list, along with realizing when my thoughts/feelings are trying to protect me (even the negative ones). I can not say enough good about what I've gained from working with you. THANK YOU. ZakPosted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I have worked with John the past year about overcoming some self limiting beliefs. He has helped me IMMENSELY. He is a great listener, intuitive, gives great feedback and is understanding. HIs experiential exercises have helped make very positive changes in my life. I RARELY write a review about anyone or anything, BUT John will help you with whatever your goals are or positive changes you would like to make in your life. I cannot recommend or thank him enough.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. John is a stellar and effective sports psychologist. As a Division 1 athlete, I’m results oriented. I’ve had a lot of fears, mental blocks, and limitations to work through, and while I’m not where I want to be yet, I’ve made so much progress.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I decided to work with John after going through an intense break up and feeling rather lost with myself. In my experience working with him, I have found myself becoming much more self-aware and feeling a lot more empowered both in personal and professional life. Overtime through his parts, meditation and embodiment work combined with using the effective communications skills he has taught me, I have been able to navigate through my most challenging relationships. Working with him has drastically improved many aspects of my life and I couldn’t be more satisfied.Posted onTrustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I was 27 years old and I knew that i wasn't ok. A good friend of mine recommended I went to a therapist and after looking and sitting with a couple I found John. John and I worked weekly for almost 5 years and his brilliance, patience, and insight helped me get through a very tough period in my life. John is patient and full of knowledge and best of I never ever felt judged. I needed someone to speak with outside of my circle who could give me honest feedback and he did just that. I am so grateful to John and therapy that as a keynote speaker and leader development expert, i recommend therapy and John all the time. If you are on the fence then its time to get off and go see John!!
GOODVerified I cannot say enough about John Boesky! He is absolutely hands down, the kindest, most compassionate therapist I have ever consulted. His genuine attentive listening and curiosity always leaves me feeling heard and understood and his knowledge and practice of internal family systems mode of therapy has opened up a whole new world of self awareness for me. Under his gentle guidance and support for the last year and a half, I have learned how to turn negative thoughts and emotions that have not served me well in the past to more positive and productive ways to navigate life 's challenges, and with John's supportive and non judgmental style and the IFS therapy, I have more joyful positivity and confidence back in my life. I enthusiastically recommend that if you need a highly skilled, compassionate, and PATIENT professional to help you navigate whatever life challenges you are facing. you will find all that and much more in John Boesky. He is truly a gift!Posted onVerified Yelp is a rough game these days where attention spans are tiny and its a challenge to have people make the effort to write something good. But its no problem crushing you over not returning a few emails, or saying you will return a call and spacing it in 2021!!! Hilarious they took the time to write that bad review then, well working from home and frustrated with no dog to kick I suppose yelp makes sense.. But following a prolonged forced lockdown, a deadly pandemic, at height of vaccine tensions, and a nation adjusting to a new dystopian reality trying not to strangle each other in lines. Yea I think I stopped reading emails more than once a month a year before that. lol. All reasons I highly recommend therapy to people because having an objective third person in the room listening to your narratives and observing your affect can be tremendously helpful to everyone. An experienced therapist can help you navigate through your blind spots, misperception, bad habits, and help you edit a poorly chosen personal narrative or even a nasty internal dialogue. So I would highly recommend making an appointment. My only suggestion would be to simplify what you do for marketing a bit. Not sure what these all mean and clearly a lot of overlaps. And Master NLP Practitioner? That could mean a lot of things and some problematic. Also you need to add more of you with some photos, pet pics, and personal choices. Never got better advice than be yourself, it has a power to resonate that is magic and authentic. Of course nobody tells you that later your eventual goal is to have a disastrous website that nobody reads and barely works because your practice is way past full. CheersPosted onVerified John has helped me through my divorce this past year and has provided compassion, support and an endless amount of good advice and insight throughout the process. I highly recommend him to anyone going through a difficult time, transition, or life changing event. I never feel judged and always feel like he's in my corner and rooting for my success. He is a true professional in every way and has made a difference in my life.Posted onVerified John is a like a wise friend who is there to listen, advise and guide you through the sometimes turbulent situations in life. He is very thoughtful and compassionate as he draws upon his experience and skills to lend perspective and support. He is always generous with his time and he is authentically committed to improving the well being of his clients.Posted onVerified John is such a warm soul. I found him very easy to connect with. Not everyone can be a perfect match and certainly would not expect miracles in one session. I saw John many times and I have never felt more heard. I didn't write a review earlier but as I refer a friend to him I looked up his reviews. I am very disappointed to see the negativity in some of his reviews. You know the people who can never be pleased? Anyways, I consider John to be an amazing counselor and always refer people to him.Posted onVerified I highly recommend John if you are stuck, in distress, or grieving a loss. As an EMDR practitioner, I look for authenticity and integrity in my own treatment. John helped me move forward after a life-altering loss. His insights and perspectives were obviously informed by years of practice, and he was genuine and compassionate in his approach. Even after seeing John for only a few sessions, I felt lighter, less sad, and ready for new beginnings. Thank you, John!Posted onVerified Working with John changed my life. If you grew up thinking therapy was for "weak" people, you and I probably heard similar things. When I first started meeting with a therapist, I was embarrassed. I didn't tell anyone because I thought my friends would think less of me. I thought strong people didn't need therapy. I soon learned that the opposite is true. Working with a therapist can sometimes bring up things that you never realized about yourself. Being willing to learn about yourself takes courage, especially when what you're learning is that you are hurting another person, or people. It takes strength to expose yourself and your flaws to another person, and create a plan for how to change the things you hate about yourself. Many people think, "I don't need to be fixed," and that's probably true! A therapist is not a fixer. A good therapist will sometimes be a coach, sometimes a teammate, but either way, will always be in your corner; and that is exactly what John has been for me. We hire personal trainers, business coaches, consultants, etc. We see doctors, dentists, chiropractors, and all manner of specialists, but most of us will avoid therapy at all costs. If you wish you had someone to talk to, someone who won't judge you or shame you for your flaws, I unreservedly recommend meeting with John. If you are anything like me, it will change your life. But first, get rid of the belief that therapy is only for the weak! Or, just call your therapist your life coach :) John, I sincerely appreciate you always making me feel important and heard. I appreciate your guidance, support, encouragement, and care. I remember daily many of the things I've learned from you. Listening well and with empathy being at the top of the list, along with realizing when my thoughts/feelings are trying to protect me (even the negative ones). I can not say enough good about what I've gained from working with you. THANK YOU. ZakPosted onVerified In the time I have seen Dr Boesky he has helped me discover a dimension of myself I know I have always had but was afraid to utilize - My true self. Although it is a constant struggle to fall into old patterns I find myself doing it less often. I always leave Dr Boesky's office finding myself at ease and letting go of a lot of the stresses that plague me. Dr Boesky has showed me that my authentic self is really beautiful and has given me tools in my lifelong quest for self acceptance. I highly recommend Dr Boesky to help anyone in the market for a Therapest to assist you in "knowing thy self ". The best word to describe Dr Boesky's is compassionate. He embodies empathy. You won't be sorry.
John Boesky, MFT, Dharma Life Coach, & Sports Performance Consultant
5100 Marlborough Dr.
San Diego, CA 92116
(619) 280-8099