Of all the emotions I work with in my practice, anger is the one that generates the most confusion – and, I would argue, the most misunderstanding. Most people who come to me with concerns about their temper have already been through some version of the standard advice: count to ten. Take deep breaths. Walk...
What does it mean to Be a Man. There is a question that sits at the center of my work with men, one that most of them have never been directly asked and have never given themselves permission to seriously consider: What does it actually mean to be a man right now? Not the version...
If you live with anxiety or depression – or both, as is common – there is a very good chance you’ve spent significant time asking yourself why. Why can’t I just relax? Why can’t I shake this heaviness? Why do I feel this way when my life, objectively, is fine? What is wrong with me?...
What Listening Actually Looks Like – And Why Most Couples Have Never Done It I’ve been working with couples for over two decades, and if I had to name the single most consistent finding from all those hours in the therapy room, it would be this: most couples have never actually listened to each other....
The Inner Athlete: How Sports Psychology and Mental Health Work Together Most athletes know the feeling: you’ve trained hard, you’re in shape, the skill is there — and yet something invisible keeps getting in the way. A missed shot at the critical moment. A habit of playing it safe when the game is on the...
Why Golf Is 90% Mental — And What to Do About It There is a saying in golf that the game is 90% mental. Every serious golfer has heard it. Most believe it. And yet almost none of them train the mental side of their game with anything close to the same rigor they bring...
The Twin in the Room: How Growing Up as a Twin Shapes Every Relationship You’ll Ever Have Most people never think about how their early attachment experiences shape the way are growing up, how they love, argue, connect, and pull away as adults. For twins, those early attachment experiences were unlike anyone else’s. You were...
When Twins Part Ways: Navigating the Big Life Transitions Together – and Apart There’s a moment many twins quietly dread – When Twins Part Ways – sometimes for years before it actually happens. Maybe it’s the first time you move to different cities. Or one of you gets married before the other. Or one of...
Twins, Identity, and the Quiet Struggle Between “Me” and “We” What if the person you love most in the world… is also the person you compare yourself to the most? For identical twins, this isn’t a hypothetical question. It’s a daily psychological reality — often invisible to the outside world, yet profoundly shaping how we...
Navigating Grief: How IFS, CBT, and Gestalt Therapy Support Healing Grief is a deeply human experience—profound, nonlinear, and unique to each person. In San Diego, where the beauty of the coast, the vibrancy of community events, and the rhythm of daily life continue unabated, grief can feel especially isolating. The sun keeps shining on La...